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Your Success Does Not Depend On The Failure Of Others

January 10, 2014

I’ve had this topic on my mind for a while now. Maybe it was hearing people’s life updates over the holidays or their lofty goals for the new year, but for whatever reason I just need to talk about this today.

your success does not dependI am definitely biased, but I think my friends are pretty awesome. This includes my blends too. Some of us are similar, and others not-so-much. Our life goals occasionally overlap though most of the time they don’t. Some people are getting promotions, while others are finishing degrees. Some bloggers have written incredible cookbooks while others published their first post.

Perhaps you’re feeling insecure in where you’re at in life, or maybe you feel like everyone is lapping you on life’s long and winding road. Try to remember that we each have our own path to follow. Some people’s path may be more direct while other’s will face many roadblocks and detours. You cannot compare one path to another. I ask that you instead try to:

Encourage each other.

Compliment each other.

Celebrate each other’s successes.

Share your wisdom.

Because we all gain from lifting each other up. 

No questions today, but would love to hear your thoughts! 

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    Danielle @ Green is the New Black
    January 10, 2014 at 5:30 am

    Great post and so true in every aspect of life! What a world it would be if everyone tried to practice a little bit of this on a daily basis. It’s hard not to compare yourself to others, but life is so much simpler if we don’t. Thanks for some thought-provoking words!
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    Ksenija @ With An Open Mind
    January 10, 2014 at 5:45 am

    So true! How often do I hear people compare their own achievements to those of others and feeling mediocre. That makes me really, really sad. As if an achievement would be worth less because someone achieved more than you did. Instead of being inspired and motivated they feel defeated and that is such a wrong way to view things. We should definitely encourage ourselves to celebrate our achievements, how little they might be!
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    Juli @ 1000lovelythings
    January 10, 2014 at 6:04 am

    I totally agree. Everyone’s unique and everyone has his or her own unique way. It’s like saying a lemon is less worth because it’s not as sweet as an orange. Yes of course because it’s not an orange. And you will appreciate this when you want to make hummus for example! It’s a stupid comparison but I can’t think on a better one. I always try to rember that if we shine together we shine even brighter!
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    Natasha
    January 10, 2014 at 6:07 am

    I totally agree with this. I think that falling into a comparison trap is dangerous! Plus, I want to be unique and UNLIKE my friends (in a good way).

    I can understand being envious of what others are doing, but that shouldn’t stop me from doing what I love and want. Following your own path, as you say, is just fine 🙂
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:23 pm

      Exactly! I love what makes me different and I love what makes my friends different. It’s exciting to hear about other people’s successes!

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    Taylor @ FoodFaithFitness
    January 10, 2014 at 6:15 am

    Honestly, I needed this. I am always feeling that I need to be “top dog” and am envious if anyone else achieves more success in any aspect of life. This is humbling and timely. Thanks for the well written post!!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:24 pm

      Always here if you want to chat Taylor! I completely understand and have so been there. Feel free to shoot be an email if you ever want to talk 😉

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    kathy@vodka and soda
    January 10, 2014 at 6:27 am

    10000% yes with this. i don’t know why people feel the need to tear others down just to make themselves feel better. they need to GTFO, STFU and focus on THEIR lives and what THEY are doing, not what others are doing.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda
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    Madison
    January 10, 2014 at 7:20 am

    This post totally made my Friday morning. Thank you! I agree 100% with you–let’s encourage and empower eachother. It’s not a competition for happiness–we should all be happy and working toward our purpose. 🙂 Happy Friday!
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    Elise @ 9toFit.com
    January 10, 2014 at 7:24 am

    I love this quote! I feel like it is easy though to fall into that trap though, but that kind of thinking I think just hurts you
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    Kierston
    January 10, 2014 at 7:39 am

    yes absolutely! Let’s bring each other up. Not down. Celebrate life, people, and everything in between 🙂
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    Chelsea @ Chelsea's Healthy Kitchen
    January 10, 2014 at 8:07 am

    GREAT post topic. And so relevant. I often find myself comparing my blog posts, photography, accomplishments, etc to those of others, and it really isn’t productive for me to do that. Thanks for the reminder to be proud of myself AND proud of others for what they do. 🙂
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    Jen @ SavedbytheKale
    January 10, 2014 at 8:25 am

    I like this quote by Mark Twain… “Comparison is the death of joy.”

    Great post Davida!
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    Mary Frances
    January 10, 2014 at 9:02 am

    So true! I think we all need this reminder. Thank you for posting this, Davida! Comparison is the thief of all joy, yet I indulge myself in it and then wonder why I’m all out of whack. 🙂 Encouraging others is such a small action, yet the result is huge! Thank you for all your encouragement Davida!

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    Parita @ myinnershakti
    January 10, 2014 at 9:04 am

    The quote about comparison being the thief of joy sums up my point of view on this topic. Whenever I feel myself going down the comparison path, I remind myself that my journey is unique and I’m right where I’m supposed to be. Then I list out all the things I have to be thankful for. It helps! Great post, Davida!
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    Kelly @ Kelly Runs for Food
    January 10, 2014 at 9:17 am

    I love this post! I love hearing about other people’s successes and I completely agree with you. I feel sad for people who get jealous or bitter when their friends succeed, because they’d be so much happier if they didn’t play the comparison game!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:27 pm

      Wish we could all be a little more like you Kelly! You’ve always been so supportive in the blogging community so I can only imagine how wonderful you must be in person!

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    Sam @ Better With Sprinkles
    January 10, 2014 at 9:27 am

    Ahh this is so true! It’s easy to be jealous or resentful when other people get promotions, get offered more opportunities or are more skilled than us in a particular area. But really, we should be proud of each other for what we’re able to accomplish! I definitely agree with the idea that comparison is the thief of joy…we just need to focus on our own journeys.
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    Kaitlin @4loveofcarrots
    January 10, 2014 at 10:02 am

    I love this post! I think its easy for us to fall into comparison rather then celebrating other people’ successes. Things happen for people at different times and its important to be genuinely happy for others so that they will be genuinely happy for you when its your turn.
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    Alex @ Kenzie Life
    January 10, 2014 at 10:09 am

    A few years ago, I went to New York for a conference and heard this quote by Loung Ung. She said, “Don’t think little of yourself because you think big of someone else.” It really stuck with me because Western Culture is so comparison based. In the last year or so, I’ve really tried to not be jealous of other people’s successes because if they can do it, it means I can too. Everyone has their own path and sometimes it’s hard to see why something happens until later on, but I do think everything happens for a reason. Great post, beautiful!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:29 pm

      I absolutely love that quote! I’m writing it down so I can look do it when I’m feeling down. You’re so wise Alex! Will you be my guru? 😉

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    Amy @ Long Drive Journey
    January 10, 2014 at 10:11 am

    Oh, what’s that quote about comparison being the biggest life suck ever? It’s so true. The SECOND you start to measure your self worth by how good or bad someone else is, you lose an ounce of happiness. It’s something I find myself doing from time to time, and I try to make a point of stopping what I am doing and reflecting on why I am feeling that way. I feel SO strongly about not wanting to be that person that puts others down, even subconsciously. I also feel like it’s a personal reflection of how you feel about yourself.
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      Amy @ Long Drive Journey
      January 10, 2014 at 10:12 am

      And while I’m at it, I want to tell you that even though I love you and would read your blog if you wrote about dirt, I look forward to reading EVERY SINGLE DAY. You are such a talented lady, and I’m glad to call you my friend.
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        Davida @ The Healthy Maven
        January 12, 2014 at 10:31 pm

        AMY I LOVE YOU! Thank you so much. You know how I feel about you and your blog. You always managed to hit the nail on the head with your inspirational posts. I feel like I was channeling you with this one 🙂

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    Cassie
    January 10, 2014 at 10:52 am

    I definitely agree! Sometimes it’s easy to feel like I’m in a race. But if I focus on what makes me happy and do that, then it’s easier to appreciate other people’s successes and milestones without feeling like I’m falling behind. I don’t care (or I don’t care as much) where I am if I’m happy!
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    D.E.
    January 10, 2014 at 11:31 am

    Thank you for this post.
    I’m always the one to tell some friends not to compare themselves to others but the last few years, I’ve been facing some personal challenges (seemingly one after another) and have found myself struggling a bit to not look at where I am in comparison to others and feel as if I’ve been left behind somehow. In these times I try to minimize my contact with social media and increase my pursuits in healthy activities (working out, eating healthily, finding as many comedies to watch/listen to that make me laugh) and remind myself that although life is very tough at the moment, I am very much worth the effort to get up each morning and try my very best.
    And that with relentless effort and perseverance , life will have no choice but to make a way for my goals to flourish.
    Some people have a tougher road to hoe. It is a part of life that I’ve come to accept and on most days I embrace the challenge. On those other days? I meditate/pray for guidance and go for a long walk.
    Thanks for your timely post.

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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:40 pm

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I think we all have those days, and yes social media has definitely perpetuated our comparison habit. Good for you for knowing yourself enough to acknowledge your struggles and how to deal with them. It’s been a long road for me to reach a place where I can genuinely say that each of us has something to offer. We are all different and have something unique to offer and that is one of the greatest blessings in life! And I could not agree more that a long walk heals all!

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    Jess @dearhealthyness
    January 10, 2014 at 11:36 am

    So true! Sometimes I do feel that other people have already accomplish so much, while I haven’t, but I’ve realize that those thoughts affect me more than they help me. I’ve discovered that is not about pleasing others but pleasing yourself. Finding what’s that one thing that makes you happy and go for it. I’m always proud of my family/friends success! I always cheer them-up, and whenever I feel they are down I cheer them up too. It’s about what we do instead of what we say. It’s far more pleasant to encourage others than it is to bring them down.
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:43 pm

      Your friends and family are so lucky to have you! Other people’s successes are so worthy of our own celebrations!

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    Danielle @LabelsAreForTinCans
    January 10, 2014 at 11:42 am

    Totally! Once I stopped (or did my best to stop) comparing myself to others I became a whole lot happier. I remember watching a bunch of Marie Forleo’s videos and her basically saying regardless of how many “blank” are out there (i.e. food bloggers, yoga teachers, whatever) you can still offer something different. It’s such a more positive way to look at things!
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    Ang @ Nutty for Life
    January 10, 2014 at 11:45 am

    This is really what I needed to hear today, but not in the way you might expect. Recently a friend of mine completely switched career paths – very abruptly, to a similar goal that I have. While I am happy that she realized what she was doing was not the right thing for her, I couldn’t help but be a little miffed that she thought she could just jump in to the same career path as me with no background while I’ve been working hard these past few years to build my resume and strengths. I was just explaining this to my mom today, and after reading this post, I’m actually embarrassed at myself for thinking that way. This was a much needed slap in the face. So thanks – I needed that.
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:48 pm

      Ang! I SO understand where you are coming from. In many ways I wrote this post as therapy for myself to let go of some jealousy I’ve been holding onto. If you ever need to talk things out feel free to shoot me an email! I’m always here to chat!

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    Megan (The Lyons' Share)
    January 10, 2014 at 12:26 pm

    You are so wise. I am SO grateful for all of the encouragement you’ve provided me. And I really do believe that bringing others up is a great way to bring OURSELVES up. You truly embody the message in this beautiful post!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 10:50 pm

      Thank you so much, friend! Seeing you going after your dreams truly brought me such joy! I could not be more excited for you!

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    taylor @ taylormade
    January 10, 2014 at 12:26 pm

    LOVE THIS. and I totally agree. it’s so hard not to compare, especially when we’re in a hard place, but it’s just not helpful. love your suggestions!
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    Shashi @ RunninSriLankan
    January 10, 2014 at 1:03 pm

    GREAT post Davida! GREAT post!
    “Encourage each other. Compliment each other. Celebrate each other’s successes. Share your wisdom.
    Because we all gain from lifting each other up” LOVE this! Brilliantly said my dear!

    Hope your weekend is wonderful!
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    FitBritt@MyOwnBalance
    January 10, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    This is awesome! I was just thinking the other day how it can be so easy to get competitive or to feel bad when you don’t achieve something but really we should just support each other for being awesome and work our hardest to achieve our own goals!
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    Alex @ Cookie Dough Katzen
    January 10, 2014 at 1:28 pm

    Wow Davida I couldn’t have said this better myself. I love the image you created by the way. This is so true. I wish everyone would stop competing with each other and realize the value of encouraging others. Jealousy is such a waste of time. Have a great weekend girl!
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    Em @ Love A Latte
    January 10, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    Great post! The comparison game is such a dangerous one, and I tryyy to stay away from it, but of course it’s tough. I’m proud of where I am, but I know there is ALWAYS going to be someone that’s “doing a better job” or “has it more together” or does what I want to do. You know what I mean. I love what you said about we all have our own path because that’s a beautiful thing! 🙂 Have a fantastic weekend!
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    Lisa @ The Skinny on Health
    January 10, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    This post is so inspiring! Just what I needed this morning. 🙂 It’s always hard to not compare yourself, but it makes you so much happier and satisfied, which allows you to become more successful at both what you do and being a friend.

    xx
    Lisa
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    Amanda @ .running with spoons.
    January 10, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    And this is a perfect example of why I consider you one of my best blends. Couldn’t agree more, lady. We don’t gain anything by walking all over other people to get ahead. Support and encouragement is where it’s at.
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    Caitlin
    January 10, 2014 at 3:14 pm

    i had a friend in college who HATED to see others succeed. it was so annoying! even today i have some friends i feel i can’t share good news with because all they do is say “i’m so jealous” or “i wish i could do that” and it is SUCH a downer.
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:00 pm

      I have one friend in particular who makes people feel bad when they are successful at anything. It’s kind of a bummer to be around her 🙁

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    Kim @ Hungry Healthy Girl
    January 10, 2014 at 3:28 pm

    Thanks for putting things into perspective. And reminding me that just because someone seems to have the perfect life and things all together; doesn’t mean that they actually do.
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    Lindsay @ Shiny Love Affair
    January 10, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    I could not agree more! This is such a great topic. I think it’s especially true when you’re in your mid-20s. Everyone is doing different things. Some are getting married and having kids, others are single and serial dating. People are in school, some are getting promoted and making a lot of money. You can’t focus on what others have that you don’t have. Focus on achieving what you want to personally achieve and be happy with where you are in your life. Support and encourage the people in your life that may have something you want. Better yet, leverage them! They could offer some great advice 🙂
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:02 pm

      I could not agree more! I definitely think it has a lot to do with the age we’re at. It’s a time of so much change and these changes come at different times for each person. For whatever reason some people have a hard time accepting that though trust me, I’m not immune to those moments when I feel like everyone is getting ahead of me. I’m starting to accept that each of us has our own path to follow and the end game is different for everyone.

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    Whitney @ To Live & Diet in L.A.
    January 10, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    Great topic. Throughout my adult life, almost all of my close friends have been in the same field and even in direct competition with me for specific jobs. The true friends, and the ones that have stuck around, are the ones who have been supportive and encouraging and not those who cut me down (literally and figuratively) to get ahead. Once we realize there is enough success to go around and stop worrying about what other people are doing, we have more energy to focus on our own goals.
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    Mitchell
    January 10, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    Way to hit the nail on the head! Why does comparing sometimes feel like the natural response? Do you think that social media – which mostly puts the ‘best bits’ of everybody’s life – on public display increases our inclination to compare?

    If somebody has a bigger piece of the pie, we automatically feel as though we have less. But whenever somebody achieves their fullest potential, whenever somebody aims big, succeeds and their happiness shines through, it can spark the same in us! Just like when you took the plunge and decided to follow your heart not your head, it gave so many readers of this blog a contact high or a boost or positive inspiration to think ‘There is somebody doing their thing – that’s what I’m going to start doing, my own thing’

    Great post 😀
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      Mitchell
      January 10, 2014 at 4:12 pm

      * Sorry, I should have specified, by ‘taking the plunge’ I was referring to your career path 😛
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        Davida @ The Healthy Maven
        January 12, 2014 at 11:04 pm

        Thanks SO much Mitchell! Definitely not my intention to inspire but I was open about it because I wished someone had told me sooner that you don’t have to choose to be unhappy if you don’t want to.

        We can all share the pie equally and why not with some ice cream on top 😉

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    Sarah @ Making Thyme for Health
    January 10, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    I love this message! Comparing yourself to others is the worst thing you can do, especially when it comes to blogging. It’s so easy to do! But I love your positive outlook. We should celebrate for one another and be happy with our own accomplishments. 🙂
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    Morganne @ Nut Butter Runner
    January 10, 2014 at 4:35 pm

    I absolutely LOVE this post. So true!! Thank you for such a great reminder!
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    Alison @ Daily Moves and Grooves
    January 10, 2014 at 4:58 pm

    Amen. I used to sit in my AP physics class, sorta-kinda hoping that other people got lower grades than me, even though we all got relatively low grades in that class. But one day, a friend of mine who was struggling much more than me in the subject said, “I want other people to do well even if I don’t. I realized one day that them getting bad grades isn’t going to raise my grades any higher.” *DING* I admired her so much for that.

    So your post here, Davida, is a great reminder of this little epiphany of mine. Encouraging each other is one of the best things we can do because everyone is on a journey, and everyone has hardships along the way. 🙂
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:06 pm

      What an awesome friend! We need more people like her in the world! Glad I could be a reminder. Truth-be-told I wrote this post as a reminder to myself 🙂

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    Kristina @ Damn Ten Pounds
    January 10, 2014 at 5:12 pm

    Amen x a million! I think this is something that comes with age, but eventually we all learn that we’re on our own journey. I think it’s pounded into us in college that you graduate, get a good job and work your way up. Since we all know that’s not the reality for everyone, we need to stop comparing ourselves to each other and this imaginary timeline that seems to exist. You do you.
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    Sarah @ Sarah Sincerely
    January 10, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    Love this post! I love how simply you stated such HUGE truth. It’s easy to compare…especially in the world of blogs when you don’t typically “see” the whole person, but rather grasp glimpses here or there of certain aspects. Thank you for sharing!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:08 pm

      I definitely see this happening a lot in the blog world. We each have our own voice and something different to offer, which is what makes the blog world so special! Thanks for stopping by!

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    Arman @ thebigmansworld
    January 10, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    comparison is like the plague- regardless of whichever way you look at it.

    I grew up always being compared to my friends ‘why did you not get this award when they did? Why are THEY playing three musical instruments and you only play one etc’ – and as such has instilled such a terrible mindset.

    I’m thrilled at your short list you have there- so often we bring ourselves down through comparison- let’s use that to motivate us AND lift us up. Great post, Francine.
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:11 pm

      So much to comment on this but fear that a certain person might read it so I’ll include it in my email which I’ve been promising you for days now. Instead I’m responding to blog comments while watching the golden globes. TOMORROW I PROMISE!

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    GiGi Eats Celebrities
    January 10, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    Never ever ever do I compare myself to others – that’s just setting yourself up for disappointment. I work in the entertainment industry – everyone is sizing each other up left and right, but that is the wrong approach. You should instead see others as your compliments. What you might not have, they might have and if you two work together then you will attain a goal you might be both after faster!

    I never ever see anyone as my competition in this industry! I love my own uniqueness and quirks, and I believe myself to be one of a kind. We are ALL one of a kind – even if you’re a twin. LOL. Rock what you’ve got. Be proud of what you’ve accomplished and put your game face on for whatever the future might hold! 😀

    XOXO – Hopefully the future holds… US COOKING UP SOMETHING AMAZINNNGGGGG together! 😀
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:23 pm

      you are changing the industry one celebrity at a time! Seriously GiGi someone’s gotta get you a show!

      Legit my dream to cook something up with you! I might get star struck though and start stuttering…

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    Kim
    January 10, 2014 at 9:57 pm

    I love this!!! I meet with a friend every week and we do “accountability” questions. One of our questions is “Have you secretly wished for another’s misfortune so that you might excel?” This is something that I work hard to make sure is always a no.
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    Nikki @ will run for pizza
    January 10, 2014 at 11:52 pm

    SO TRUE! My hubby and I talk about this a lot because we sometimes feel like we are so behind all of the couples and friends in our life. But we both went through divorces and school and jobs during our twenties, so it’s taking half of our 30’s to get this thing called life back on track. Sometimes I don’t even feel like an adult because I would love to just up and move every year to a completely different place. That seems so 21. But at the same time, I feel like I’ve come a long way and some things I had to learn the hard way, but I learned them. And I still struggle with “what do I want to do when I grow up”. I’m going to be 35 in July. Maybe I should figure that out this year????? After an announcement at work this week, I may just have an opportunity to make some life/career changes though…
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:27 pm

      I’ve come to learn that no one really has it figured out, some people just fake it till they make it! Life is a list of figuring out what doesn’t work and then crossing it off. Excited for you to take the leap. As you know, I just did so I’m always here to chat if you need someone!

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    Gina @ Health, Love, and Chocolate
    January 11, 2014 at 3:07 am

    YES. Why bring others down when we can learn and grow so much from each other?
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    Joanne
    January 11, 2014 at 7:09 am

    This is an AWESOME post and definitely one needed at this time of year! It’s so easy to get caught up in comparison, when really we should just be focusing on ourselves!
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    Gabby @ the veggie nook
    January 11, 2014 at 11:18 am

    I love this post and message! I hope everything is ok on your end to prompt it’s posting! I am guilty of this but almost the other way around. At times I feel like a failure based on the success of others. I am not as successful, don’t make as much money and don’t have many things other people my ago do and at times it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. You’re so right in that it’s important to not compare your path to others. We all need to take out own time and routes. Just because I’m not where I thought I’d be when I was 25, does not mean that where I’m at is bad 🙂
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    Tonya@Healthy, Fit, and Frugal
    January 11, 2014 at 12:02 pm

    I was JUST having a conversation about this yesterday with my friend. I have a friend who a) just bought a house in this area which is really expensive to buy, b) just got a huge job promotion at the stable company she has been working at forever, and c) just got engaged.

    It would be very easy for me to feel sorry for myself because I have none of those things happening, or I can look at my own life and things I accomplished that other people haven’t. Plus, everyone has struggles. She may have those things, but she also has a chronic illness which makes daily life sometimes difficult.

    You’re right in that you have to find it within yourself to be happy for others successes, and focus no how you can make your own life better and follow your own path and dreams.
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    Lauren @ ihadabiglunch
    January 11, 2014 at 2:37 pm

    What a beautiful post! I totally agree-and it’s especially important to only keep those “friends” who have similar viewpoints. There’s nothing worse than thinking someone is a great friend and confidant only to later realize that they are hurt or jealous at your success or aren’t there for you when you fail. Real, true relationships who view life as something we all have to work together at are so very important.
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    Heather @ Run Like a G!
    January 11, 2014 at 2:59 pm

    LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I try to make this a part of my being every day! It is so important to celebrate everyone’s goals regardless of where we are at!!!!!!
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    Sarah @ Feeeding the Brain and Body
    January 11, 2014 at 6:24 pm

    This is such a great reminder, THanks!
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    Carla
    January 11, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    Wonderful and inspiring post Davida!
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    Amanda
    January 11, 2014 at 8:13 pm

    I completely agree! I’ll never understand people who don’t help each other out just because it’s the right and kind thing to do rather than because they’re getting something out of it for themselves.
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    Suzanne @ hello, veggy!
    January 11, 2014 at 10:08 pm

    I am coming to learn this as well. Jealous is a terrible monster that sometimes can get in the way. Why not just spread the love and fuzziness and just LOVE everyone just the way they are? xoxo
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:29 pm

      Agreeed! Starting with how incredibly proud I am to see how far your blog has come! I remember your first post that I read (tropical buckwheat granola) and now you’re hosting healthy vegan fridays! Could not be happier or more excited for you 🙂

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    Karey @ Nutty About Health
    January 12, 2014 at 12:29 am

    Great post, love this! Definitely a great reminder to support everyone & not compare yourself to others. Pay it forward.
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    Melanie @ HappyBeingHealthy
    January 12, 2014 at 1:41 am

    Love this post and I agree with you 100%! I am not a competitive person and I’m genuinely happy for the good things that happen to others. I try to look at others successes as inspiration and a great example to me!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:30 pm

      I’m learning to feel like competitive and more inspired by my friends successes. It’s a much healthier and less stress inducing way to live!

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    lucie
    January 12, 2014 at 4:37 am

    This is such a great post! Each one of us has different strengths and weaknesses and if we can us one of our strengths to help someone that isn’t so great at something else, I think that is one way to feel empowered (and a good way to make friends, too!)

    x
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    Cassie
    January 12, 2014 at 10:33 am

    This post is so amazing… it’s so true. It’s easy to get caught up in all the amazing things other people are doing and just hoping they fail so you can succeed – there is no limit to how much success there is in the world, there is room for everyone to do amazing things.

    Thanks for such an uplifting post – gives me some good things to think about before I go on my long run. 🙂
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    Brittany
    January 12, 2014 at 10:42 am

    Mad love for this post girrrrrrl. A to the MEN!
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    Anna
    January 12, 2014 at 11:59 am

    Such a great post. I’ve definitely been thinking about this a lot myself and just had a conversation with someone yesterday about how some people seem to have such a direct route to success, while others (had a moment of feeling sorry for myself yesterday haha!) need to overcome what seems like a bunch of hurdles until they reach success/accomplish whatever it is they hope to accomplish. But it’s completely true that everyone has their own path and in one way or another, those obstacles are leading us in the right direction, even if it doesn’t seem so in the moment.

    Your advice is very wise!
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:37 pm

      Thanks Anna! Truth-be-told I think we all will face obstacles that make us feel like we’re working against the current at some point in our lives, it’s just sometimes people get them in waves when it seems like everyone else is speeding right past them. But eventually it all comes full-circle. Or so my idealist 24 year old self would like to believe 😉

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    Kim @ BusyBod
    January 12, 2014 at 2:18 pm

    I’m so behind on blog reading, but I just love this so much. I’m exhausted by competition lately. Certain people in my life make me feel as though the only way they can derive any self-worth is to reduce mine, or to “beat me” in any way that they can. While I know this comes from a place of insecurity, it’s still toxic. I see it in the fitness world too. This constant need for your workout to be the toughest/hardest/best, so they put down any other approach to health and fitness. Ugh, I just feel like I could write a book on this lately, but I won’t overwhelm your feed like that. I just wanted to say thank you. We are all on our own journey, and we can all lift each other up. If we do, no one loses, we all gain. You’re amazing. xoxo
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    Sarah Pie
    January 12, 2014 at 10:40 pm

    DITTO! Beautiful thoughts and you put them out there so truthfully… this is why you’re the best you’re always giving people what they need even if they didn’t know they needed it 🙂
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      Davida @ The Healthy Maven
      January 12, 2014 at 11:35 pm

      You are way too sweet Sarah! I’m glad my thoughts (which are often my way of sorting through difficult times I’m going through) can inspire others. This is why I love the blogging community so much!

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    Consuelo @ Honey & Figs
    January 14, 2014 at 11:59 am

    Great post, sweetie. That was what I just needed right now :’)
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    Madison @ Eating 4 Balance
    January 15, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    I’ve been thinking about this a bunch too, but I guess from more of the less positive mindset. Seeing all of these wonderful pictures and hearing these great stories from people over the holidays has me insanely jealous. Like you said, this is to be expected because I have some pretty interesting friends. And even though I FELT like I had an okay break, in comparison my seemed dull.

    But just the title of this post alone says it all I guess. Just because their breaks were awesome doesn’t make mine any less awesome. It kind of reminds me of athletes who get it in their heads that if they don’t place, somehow their race/event doesn’t matter. To that I am always incredulous, especially if they PR’d! I guess I’m not taking my own advice. Although I am happy to take yours 🙂
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    Amy @ Elephant Eats
    January 15, 2014 at 2:31 pm

    This is a lovely post, Davida. I can’t imagine wanting others to fail…what a sad way to go through life.
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    Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets
    January 18, 2014 at 1:36 pm

    Wonderful words of wisdom. You my dear are wise beyond your years. Plus you can make a kick ass cake.

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    Amanda @ Diary of a Semi-Health Nut
    January 20, 2014 at 5:17 pm

    Gosh this is so true! It’s tricky to not get caught up in how well others are doing (and possibly how we are struggling with the very thing the other person is breezing through!)…especially in the blogging world! There is such a wide range of successes in blogging!

    Thank you thank you for posting this, Davida! This concept is something I needed reinforced today!! <3
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