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My Experience with An Ectopic Pregnancy

September 15, 2020

*If you’ve experienced pregnancy loss this post may be triggering for you so please proceed with caution.*

Not in a million years did I think I’d be writing this post. For one, I’ve never had a desire to document my pregnancy experience or share any of mine and C’s family planning choices with anyone besides the two of us. And secondly, I never thought pregnancy loss would happen to me.

It’s true. Despite pregnancy loss being so common, you just don’t expect it to happen to you. It makes the whole experience feel so surreal and quite honestly, I’m still trying to process it.

But I’d like to believe that some kind of purpose can be derived from this experience and/or at the very least could help one of you feel a little less alone. Because that’s how the last month of my life has felt. So, incredibly, alone.

I’ve spent countless hours on reddit message boards reading about ectopic pregnancies and women’s various experiences with them hoping to find someone who shared something in common with me. I desperately googled “ectopic pregnancy” only to find pages of clinical websites listing off risk factors that didn’t apply to me and stats and outcomes that made my heart sink. I wanted to hear from a real person going through this. Not a statistic.

At one point during this journey (or saga!) I went down a rabbit hole of trying to hear a first person account of a D&C (more on that in a bit) and found a blogger who willingly opened up about her experience and shared not just the events but also her emotional experience with the D&C. It helped me to mentally prepare for my own D&C and also reminded me that whenever this season of my life was done I would want to be just as helpful as she was for me.

So here I am sharing what the last month of my life has entailed. This has been going on in the midst of a pandemic, raging wildfires and poor air quality on the West Coast, racial injustice protests and in my case, a not-so-fun hacking of The Healthy Maven which took my entire business down for 5 days. So yeah, this month has sucked. But I’m feeling ready to talk about it and hopefully help continue processing what has happened to my body.

Finding Out I’m Pregnant

The title of this post gave away the ultimate outcome of this pregnancy: ectopic. However it took 10 days before we were able to confirm this. So I’m going to tell our story from the beginning. Let’s flash back to August 12, 2020.

A week and a half prior I had had my period which was nothing out of the ordinary. I am incredibly fortunate to have a regular, manageable period (something I am deeply grateful for and do not take for granted!). It’s pretty consistently 28-29 days, with the first day being the heaviest and the most painful. Typically it will last another 4 days of light spotting and then I’m done.

However, a week after my period *should* have been finished I was still spotting and cramping. I found this unusual and thought I’d just connect with my OBGYN to be safe. We chatted (pandemic-style) over the phone and she suggested I come in for some testing and that if I had a pregnancy test at home I should use it. I kind of scoffed at the idea because I’d just had my period and thought that unless immaculate conception had occurred there was a 0% chance I was pregnant. But I rushed out to CVS anyway and picked up a pregnancy test.

Not an ounce of me expected it to say positive but much to our surprise the word “pregnant” appeared on the test and C and I were absolutely shocked. We were so happy but also knew that things weren’t adding up so we shouldn’t get too excited. I messaged my doctor and she cautiously congratulated us but also told me I’d need to come in for extra testing that afternoon.

I went in and had blood work to confirm my Hcg levels and also have an ultrasound. My Hcg levels were at 1024 and the ultrasound could not find anything on the screen (in my uterus or elsewhere). I was told I’d need to come back in 48 hours to test my Hcg again and see if it had doubled as well as have another ultrasound.

That first 48 hours of waiting was excruciating. This was the only time C and I held onto the belief that this could still be a normal pregnancy. If what I thought was my period in late July actually wasn’t my period, then I would still be in early pregnancy (5ish weeks) and there was a chance I was too early for anything to be seen on the screen. But we still had no confirmation so we just had to wait.

I went back to the doctor on Friday, 48 hours later and had my Hcg tested again and another ultrasound. My Hcg had doubled to 2131, which was a healthy trajectory but again they could not see anything on the ultrasound. I was sent down to radiology for another ultrasound to confirm but they also didn’t see anything. Because I wasn’t in any pain and I was otherwise stable my doctor suggested we do another 48 hour wait and test.

I went back 48 hours later and while my Hcg hadn’t doubled it had increased more than 50% which was still indicative of a healthy pregnancy. The new metrics for when you’d expect to at least see a gestational sac on an ultrasound is an Hcg around 3500 and mine was at 3214. Because I was still below the threshold and this was a desired pregnancy, we decided to wait another 48 hours.

Guys, I am not a patient person. While I’d begun to suspect this was not going to end well, the waiting periods were driving me nuts. We also were in the middle of a massive heat wave with no A/C, smoke advisories from fires and my body starting to show it’s first signs of pregnancy (extreme bloating, aching legs and painful breasts). I was not in a great mood, to say the least.

48 hours later we did another round of testing and again my numbers didn’t double but went up in a still healthy range to 4900 and still we couldn’t see ANYTHING on an ultrasound. I was officially diagnosed with a “pregnancy of unknown location”. It will likely be the strangest diagnosis I will ever receive in my life. Turns out I was pregnant, they just couldn’t find out where.

If you don’t know anything about an ectopic pregnancy, it’s basically a pregnancy that develops outside of your uterus. A healthy and viable pregnancy can only develop in your uterus. If it develops elsewhere it is not a viable pregnancy. 2% of all pregnancies are ectopic (very rare) and 98% of them happen in a fallopian tube. At this point I was in the 2% of the 2% in that my ectopic could not be found. But it was time to start making decisions and moving forward…

And for those wondering, I very much did get my period in spite of being pregnant with an ectopic pregnancy. Most doctors have denied this happened (I’m not crazy!!) and the only reason I know this to be true is because I’ve heard from so many other people who have experienced an ectopic pregnancy and also had their periods. So yes, anecdotally it can happen.

The D&C

Because my pregnancy could not be found on ultrasound, we had to do a D&C to confirm it was not in my uterus. If you’ve never heard of a D&C, it’s a dilation and curettage procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Sadly, most women come to learn about a D&C if they’ve experienced a miscarriage. Though there are a couple ways to miscarry, a D&C is the most invasive but also the fastest and most confirmed option.

I did not receive a D&C because I had miscarried. I received a D&C because they needed to extract tissue from my uterus to confirm there was no pregnancy tissue in there. It would help us confirm my pregnancy was ectopic if no pregnancy tissue could be found.

Now I don’t want to scare anyone with this and I know every woman has their own experience with pregnancy loss but by a landslide my D&C was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Some women are put under general anaesthesia for the procedure (which I would have 100% done) but due to the pandemic and wanting to avoid the hospital as well as the fact that they didn’t expect to find much in my uterus they suggested local anaesthetic and pain meds instead of being put under.

Now at this point we’re 9 days after the initial pregnancy positive. C drove me to the hospital but sadly had to wait in the car. I was probably there for a total of 1.5 hours. I was given pain meds and anxiety meds and told to wait 15 minutes before the procedure would begin. I’m not going to lie, having to do the whole procedure alone totally sucked. I was skeptical that only waiting 15 minutes for the meds to kick in would work but I was also desperate to get out of the clinic and back to C. I just wanted the whole thing to be over.

In hindsight I should have insisted we waited longer for the pain meds to kick in. In the end the pain meds didn’t work and the local anaesthesia also didn’t work (even though they gave me double the dose). My doctor had told me that the procedure would most likely feel like heavy cramps but I have truly never felt anything like this in my entire life. I lay there crying (I’m not much of a crier- it takes a lot to get the flood works going!) while it felt like she was stabbing my insides with a knife. I asked her if this was what heavy cramping feels like and she said it shouldn’t be too painful. When I told her it felt like she was stabbing me she just kept apologizing and tried to move as quickly as she could.

When it was done I just lay on the table sobbing. I somehow picked myself up and walked myself to the pharmacy to get my pain meds and then met C at the car. By the time I got home all of the pain and anxiety meds had kicked in and I passed out for a few hours.

I still to this day don’t know why it was so painful. Most of what I read and what the doctor had told me indicated it shouldn’t have been. So I guess I’ll pose this to you: If you had a D&C, what was your experience like?

Treating the Ectopic Pregnancy: Methotrexate

We had to wait 24 hours for the results from pathology to confirm or deny pregnancy tissue in my uterus. When the results came in they didn’t surprise anyone: no pregnancy tissue in my uterus. I had a confirmed diagnosis of an ectopic or in my case a pregnancy of unknown location (a rare type of ectopic).

Most women discover they have an ectopic pregnancy because it ruptures. This is typically a very painful experience that can be life-threatening if left untreated. In my case, I was stable so no surgical intervention was necessary. If you catch the ectopic before it ruptures the usual course of treatment is to treat with a drug called Methotrexate.

Methotrexate is a chemo drug that is injected into your bloodstream to help your body break down and absorb the pregnancy. Methotrexate is a folate antagonist which means it depletes your body of all folate which is essential for growing a healthy baby. It’s why doctors encourage you to take prenatal vitamins with folate before and during pregnancy.

In my case I’d need a shot (or 2 in the bum!) of methotrexate and need to follow a low folate diet. Guys, folate is in everything healthy aka all veggies. So following a folate-free diet really wasn’t fun for me. I was also told I shouldn’t drink because my liver was in overdrive and that I’d have to eliminate all exercise, heavy lifting or strenuous activity in case it still ruptured. Because here’s the thing about ectopic pregnancies: even if you’re treated with methotrexate, you’re still at risk of rupture until your Hcg levels drop to zero which typically takes around 4-6 weeks.

So I was on bed rest which honestly wouldn’t have been so bad if we weren’t trapped inside because the smoke was so bad outside.

I’m pretty fortunate in that my methotrexate reaction wasn’t too terrible. The first 48 hours were the worst with a low grade nausea and a weird metallic taste in my mouth, which I’m told is very common for chemo drugs. About 4 days after the shot I had some heavier cramping but nothing too painful.

The protocol with methotrexate is a 4 and 7 day follow-up and then 1 week follow-ups thereafter. 4 days after the shot it’s typical to see Hcg levels rise (mine did and hit 10,295) but then if they fall by at least 15% on day 7 from day 4 you know it’s working. Luckily mine fell 20% on day 7 which meant I didn’t need to get another methotrexate shot. At that point I was on bed rest, following a low-folate diet and just hoping for the best.

The Rupture

Obviously my preference would have been for the methotrexate to be effective and a few weeks later start feeling somewhat more normal. But you can’t always get your way. 13 days after my initial methotrexate shot and 6 days after my levels had dropped 15%, I felt a sharp pain in my belly. I was told to look out for sharp pains that are hard to breathe through or a feeling of needing to faint or dizziness. I was on the phone with my friend Meg, literally laying in bed doing nothing when it suddenly came on.

It was painful but I was able to breathe through it and talk with Meg for another 20 minutes. At first I thought I might be having a bad gas pain? I just really didn’t want it to be a rupture.

But after hanging up I ran to the bathroom and trying to pass a 1 and 2 was so painful I knew it must have ruptured. I called C from the upstairs bathroom and told him I thought my ectopic had ruptured but I wasn’t sure. Either way we knew we needed to rush to the ER just in case.

Ectopics are the leading cause of maternal mortality in the first trimester. If you don’t know you have one you could confuse it with some other kind of pain or put off dealing with it. But when an ectopic ruptures it releases blood into your abdomen which can cause you to go into toxic shock. So you need to get treated ASAP if you have one.

We hopped into the car to head to the ER and I called my clinic along the way. Pro-tip: if you know your ectopic has ruptured, have your clinic call the ER to inform them of your case and that you’re coming in. C pulled up to the ER and having to say goodbye and hobble my way into the hospital was awful. Not having partners be a part of this process is really, really difficult.

Thankfully they expected me and I was whisked into the hospital immediately and given an ultrasound and pain meds right away. The ultrasound showed free fluid (I.e. blood) which indicated that my ectopic had ruptured. What’s crazy is that at this point they STILL couldn’t see the pregnancy. They suspected it was in one of my fallopian tubes but they couldn’t be sure until I had surgery.

Which leads me to the next event in this saga: emergency surgery.

If your ectopic pregnancy has ruptured there is only one option – surgery. Thankfully, I was a good candidate for laparoscopic surgery, which is less invasive and leaves only 3 small scars. The on-call OBGYN (I’ve now met 6 of 8 doctors in the practice!) had me call C on speakerphone so she could explain the procedure and what we might expect. I was going to be put under general anaesthesia and they would make 3 small holes (1 through my belly button) and look around for the rupture to remove the pregnancy. Even though we couldn’t see it on ultrasound, there was a good chance it was in one of my fallopian tubes and based on bleeding it was likely the left one. While she said she’d try to preserve the tube if it was in there, I’m also at much higher risk for another ectopic if we leave a damaged tube inside of me.

Based on what little information I could gather in that moment I gave her consent to remove the tube if it looked in rough shape and couldn’t be repaired. Then I demanded Ativan (lol) and let them wheel me up to pre-op.

At this point I don’t remember much. The morphine and Ativan had kicked in and everything became a blur. The last thing I remember was the anesthesiologist saying “this will feel like a glass of wine” and me responding “haven’t had one of those in a while!” and then I was asleep.

When I woke up I was pretty freaked out. It was late at night (11:00 PM) and I was the only person in this big post-op room. C couldn’t be there and I could make out two women sitting at a desk. From what I’ve been told, I started to panic pretty intensely and was yelling for Ativan. I’m glad that my subconscious knew how to treat my anxiety lol…although it’s somewhat ironic because up until that point I’d only taken Ativan 3 times in my life and one of those times was just before the surgery.

The nurses helped me get dressed and then wheeled me out to the parking lot where C was waiting for me. He took me home and helped me get into bed and take my meds. My mouth was so dry that I kept insisting on spoonfuls of coconut oil?! Honestly it’s all a blur.

When I came to, C told me they had found the pregnancy in my left fallopian tube and that it had grown to an inch (3 cm) and had damaged my tube. They had to remove my left fallopian tube along with the pregnancy and removed half a litre of blood from my abdomen. My Hcg levels had dropped pretty substantially to 3451 (from 8250 the week before) but in spite of this it still ruptured. It’s all just so crazy. That’s what I have to say about that.

Ectopic Pregnancy Recovery – Physical + Mental/Emotional 

I’m breaking down the recovery into physical and mental/emotional because both have looked very different.

Physical recovery

The first 48 hours after surgery were the worst. I couldn’t walk, I had no appetite and C literally had to do everything for me. One thing I’ve learned about laparoscopic surgery is that it’s common to have intense shoulder pain even though the surgery was done on the abdomen. In order for them to see around they inject you with CO2 which then gets trapped in your body and oftentimes makes its way up to your shoulders. For the first 48 hours after surgery my shoulders hurt SO much. Rolling side to side was painful and i’m not a great back sleeper so none of it was ideal.

Then the pain dissipated and I was able to walk again. Within a week I was hiking up in Tahoe (albeit pretty short hikes) and felt *mostly* like myself again.

The one annoying thing that has remained (we’re a little over a month out and 2 weeks from surgery) is a terrible rash I developed on my hip bones. I’ve come to discover that NO ONE talks about this, but it’s actually quite common to develop an allergic reaction to the mesh underwear that give you at the hospital. I was bleeding quite a bit after the surgery so I went home in mesh undies and a giant pad and a few extras of each. I changed them each day and while I had no issue for the first 5 days I started to become itchy after. I then developed a rash on the outside of my hips and abdomen. THIS HAS SUCKED. Seriously, it’s just been another thing I haven’t wanted to deal with. But between cortisone cream, ibuprofen and anti-histamines it’s much less itchy now and starting to go down. So fair warning, you may react to the hospital mesh underwear: anyone else?!

*edited to add: I’v heard from so many of you who also reacted to your hospital mesh undies! The reaction is contact dermatitis though to this day I don’t know if it’s the material of the mesh undies or something they were treated with. Either way here’s what cleared mine up: 1% cortisone cream at least 3 times a day and a daily anti-histamine to stop the itching (go for something like claritin or zyrtec if you don’t want to be drowsy). I avoided super hot showers or baths for a few days because the heat made it worse but eventually when it calmed down I did take epsom salts baths to help the rash go away after it stopped itching. Hope this helps!

Otherwise I am starting to feel like I’m getting my body back. I’m cleared to exercise indoors in a few days which is a godsend since the AQI makes it impossible to do anything outside. It will likely be weeks or maybe months before I get my period back. It’s all just waiting game now.

Mental/Emotional Recovery

I think this piece is going to take much longer than the physical recovery. I’ve come to terms with what has happened but I’m also still in shock that this all went down. Like I said, I had zero idea this would happen to me. I think I was more emotionally prepared for miscarriage when it come to pregnancy loss but not an ectopic pregnancy.

Part of what makes it so hard to accept is that I didn’t fit any of the risk factors. I’m not over 35, I don’t have endometriosis, I don’t have a history of STIs or Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. I’m just really unlucky. And sometimes that’s the hardest piece to accept.

I think for many women their pregnancy loss is followed by a deep sense of grief. I do feel this but not for a baby I never had. I don’t feel like I have an angel or rainbow baby. This pregnancy never felt like a “real” pregnancy or something I could allow myself to dream or be excited about. My grief is more for my body and everything it has been through and lost. I’m also sad that my first experience with pregnancy has been filled with so much fear which I suspect will continue whenever C and I decide to try again in the future.

But weirdly I’m also filled with a deep sense of gratitude. While I would never wish this experience on anyone, I am forever changed in the way I view pregnancy and having children and this perspective I wouldn’t change for the world.

I completely understand why some women struggling with pregnancy loss and infertility feel overwhelmed with jealousy and other emotions when they learn someone in their life is pregnant. I don’t feel jealous in any way but I do feel a deep urge to shake them and let them know what a FREAKING MIRACLE it is. I want women who don’t struggle with pregnancy or fertility to understand how freaking lucky they are. I want them to feel it deep in their bones and know that they just as easily could have been me.

But my therapist likes to remind me that I don’t know everyone’s story and a lot of people don’t talk about loss so I probably shouldn’t judge so harshly 😉

Other than that I’m doing my best to take care of my mental health, snuggling the pups and watching a lot of TV. I’m trying to be gentle with myself and be patient with my healing. Sharing this post with you guys is part of that process.

My current uniform: C’s basketball shorts because everything else rubs my hips and makes my rash itchy ugh!

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So now I’m in this club I never wanted to be a part of but especially the ectopic pregnancy club which has so few members. I wish I had more women to talk to about this. So far I’ve had friends tell me about a friend of a friend or a sister who went through this experience but no one who I know personally. My hope with sharing this post is not only to help me heal from my experience but also to connect with other women who have gone through it too.

On top of a pandemic and everything happening in the world, I’ve just felt super isolated. I’m SO grateful to our friends and family who we’ve told and have been unbelievably supportive and generous but I’d love to hear from any of you who have been through something similar.

Years ago when I got shingles (on my face!) I shared about that experience here on the blog. 2.5 years later and that post still gets daily comments from people who are currently struggling with shingles and it brings me so much peace of mind to know that my story can help support others as they navigate their own.

Ectopic pregnancies are even more rare so maybe it’s wishful thinking but if you resonate with any of this I’d love to hear from you. Maybe we can all support each other in this undesired club.

Sending you all lots of love! -D


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  • Reply
    Lori D. Keith
    December 24, 2020 at 10:52 am

    My husband an I were going to do an announcement on Christmas Eve. We have been together 5 years, lived together 4 years. I have a 9.5 year old son. He has a 13.5 year old girl. I was still pregnant yesterday. I went yesterday to have my tube and our baby removed at the Hospital. I had an Etopic Pregnancy. The pregnancy was not viable due to lack of blood supply and for the risk of hemmoraging. I will be losing my Fallopian tube as well.
    The story.
    My LMP was Oct 18, lasted 4 days. It literally started right after our wedding on the 17th.
    I was due to start on Nov 18/19. Took test after test after test.
    My first positive test was November 29. Later that night, I started bleeding. My HCG levels was only 47. I ended up going to the ER and they could not confirm anything except it was “very early on”.
    On Dec 2nd my level was 91. Dec 5th my level was 62. That was a depressing weekend. That Monday Dec 7th, my level was 303. At this point, I was about 4 weeks along.
    I got blood work on Wednesday Dec 9th and my level was 529. We were very excited. My level doubled! Felt tired, boobs hurting, super smell, slight cramping all the right signs.
    On Thursday December 17th my level was 2158. I am now 6/7 weeks along. Level should be alot HIGHER. No pain, no bleeding. Confirmation of a baby at the time. Yay!!! So exciting! Same day found out I failed my exam. I had completed a program in July 2019 to be an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant. I was scheduled to take boats in April 2020 as it is only offered 2 times a year at the cost of $660. Pandemic happened so moved testing to Sept 2020. You don’t find out your results until 3 months later. I failed by 1 point. One positive, one negative. Okay. But I was so happy about this baby.
    I started cramping and bright red blood on Sunday December 20th. I call the on call Doctor. Dr. V from Nortons., Amazing lady. She says to rest and be seen the next day. 8/9 weeks now.
    Monday December 21st, I go in at 945. Ultrasound shows nothing in my uterus. I have a 5 cm cyst that was not there before. And something hidden near my ovary. Repeat HGC blood work. Pelvic exam reveals nothing. No pain, just some spotting/bleeding. Any extreme pain, go directly to the ER. I leave finally at 12 and feel faint. I get called at 430pm, Dr. Brass wants to see me first thing.
    Tuesday December 22nd, I find out My HCG level is 4156. I check mark All the telltale signs of an Etopic. Rising HCG,no baby in the womb, thickened lining in the uterus, suspect mass measuring an inch long near my ovary, progesterone level of 6.5 which should be near 15. So, We schedule the surgery, a larascopy and D&C at Floyd for Wednesday December 23rd at 7:30 am. I didn’t go back till about 11am. I was so nervous and stressed.
    They ended up removing my tube and baby. I had started bleeding already. My right ovary was swollen and filled with fluid. They drained that. They looked all around and also drained the other cyst. I have been in bed since yesterday. I have an extremely high pain tolerance but the incisions hurt wise than labor and tonsillectomy and I had some of my cervix removed at a prior time years ago. This sucks. Boobs still hurt, I still smell and nausea is right around the corner. It feels weird to pee because everything is so swollen, the bleeding is sad. Since I rested the day before surgery, I came to attend with the baby loss and knew I needed to be able to be here for my children and husband and my mom and disabled brother. I posted on social media because I wanted the baby to be recognized. It was here. I want the pregnancy symptoms to go away.
    My friend sent me this.
    (I’m sorry Lori. I heard something the other day that immediately brought me to tears. It said,) “When we come back into life, with every incarnation, we have lessons we are supposed to learn. For the babies that are lost in utero, the last lesson they needed to learn was unconditional love.” “Whether you believe in the idea of reincarnation or not, the message is still very strong.”

    We are happy for all the love and support and prayers. Recovery shouldn’t be too long. I told the kids that I had been growing their Guardian Angel. I am not sure how everyone else is. Just last few weeks have been so crazy.

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    December 23, 2020 at 1:20 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss and to hear you have been through this, I have just been though a similar experience and had an ectopic pregnancy less than a week ago. Hope you are healing and doing well❤️
    And I hope it’s okay to quickly share my story too. I found out I was pregnant 15th November and started bleeding the day after, not much at first so thought it was just implantation bleeding but then started heavy bleeding a week later and was advised to go to A and E where I was told to go for an early pregnancy scan 3 days later which I did and there was nothing in my uterus and they couldn’t see any sign of pregnancy what so ever.
    After 2 more weeks of scans (6/7 in total finding no sign still), internal examinations and blood tests where my hcg levels were over 23,000 and declining 5% every 2 days, so obviously a problem.. was then told I would have another scan 2 days later which never actually happened until the day after that as they basically forgot to book me in and it took me ringing up 4 times to actually book one myself, at this point I’m panicking and my anxiety is all over the place, 23 years old and the first time I’ve ever been pregnant and I was told it could be miscarriage or ectopic based on my hcg levels and everything else, had to go through it all on my own too because of COVID so I understand how frightening that is and no one should ever have to go through all this on their own during one of the worst experiences in their life.
    Scan day comes and it all just happened so fast it was so surreal as I was in no pain at all and was in work just the day before so I was just completely confused, I had a scan at 9:30am in which they actually seen the pregnancy for the first time in my right Fallopian tube so confirmed ectopic. I was then transferred to the pregnancy ward where I was given a wristband straight away and spoke to a doctor in which she said I had to have surgery as soon as possible to remove the pregnancy and had to give consent for my tube to be removed if necessary. Around 12:30pm now and I had just eaten a sandwich so had to wait At least 6 hours before they could send me down to theatre and I was put on a drip until then because of my low blood pressure. 8:30pm and I’m so scared as they come and get me for surgery and after 2 hours I’m back on the ward just don’t even know how to feel.
    Doctor then comes to tell me that the pregnancy was actually 4cm and as soon as they started to operate it ruptured and I lost half a pint of blood and my tube had to go aswell. 6 days later and I’m at home having to self isolate so can’t even see friends for 2 weeks, im just so lucky to still be living at home so I have family by my side who are just amazing and making this whole experience that little bit easier.
    I’m so sorry this is so long I just read your story and couldn’t help but shed a tear and I just had to share my story too. And for anyone else going through this you are not alone and there is no right or wrong way to feel right now, I just know we can help each other though this especially after the year we’ve all had.
    I wish you all the best Davida and lots of hugs ❤️

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    Lisa H.
    November 21, 2020 at 1:30 am

    Dear Davida,

    Little angle-Thank you for sharing your experience. I have a similar story so do know the level of pain you have endured and the courage it took to share this with others. You are a beautiful soul and an inspiration for young ladies that need a mentor. Sending love and healing energy to you and those that are close to you.
    I hope you are back in the groove doing what brings you joy. I look forward to new posts and new content. Just found you via utube!
    Peace and Best wishes for a peaceful, healing, and beautiful 2021 for us all.
    Lisa H.

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    Dani Nemzer
    October 4, 2020 at 10:37 pm

    Thinking of you, Davida! I’m so sorry to hear of what you went through and appreciate you sharing it with us. Glad you’re on the mend and can start doing some of the things you love again.

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    October 2, 2020 at 7:04 pm

    Thank you SO much for sharing your story! I also live in the Bay Area (I am in Marin) and was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy on September 9th… the awful day the sky turned orange! I had MTX shots immediately that day and suffered severe side effects the following week. I am now three weeks out from the first shots and doing much better (no rupture yet, fingers crossed), but man… what a lonely scary whirlwind of a process this has been. I am so sorry you have had to go through this as well, but I am so very grateful you shared your experience here, so thank you again! I know this might sound super random, but if you ever want to meet up in Marin or SF for coffee or a glass of wine (my doctor finally cleared me for a glass, hurray!!!) to commiserate and share HCG woes, our ectopic survival stories, etc. I would be all for it!!! Wishing you all the best in your continued recovery. XO

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      February 12, 2021 at 6:36 am

      Hello, how do you feel now a few months after the methotrexate? I still have some pain on the side where the ectopic was and was curious if this is normal.

      Thanks a lot

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    Nicole @ Laughing My Abs Off
    September 30, 2020 at 10:07 am

    Reading this was absolutely heartbreaking. Reading your blog and generally following along with your life for years, and also just knowing first-hand what a wonderful human you are, I just wanted to give you a huge hug the entire time. 🙁 I’m so sorry you went through this, but I absolutely think this post is going to be paramount for other women who walked the same path.
    And may I just say, it takes tremendous grace and strength to write about this experience the way you do – no sugarcoating, just flat out “it f***ing sucked, but here I am somehow still standing.” You’re amazing. <3

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    September 19, 2020 at 3:58 pm

    Love and adore you. I am in awe of your strength and hope the rest of 2020 could cut us some slack

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    September 19, 2020 at 2:59 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. I had a D&C in Nov 2018 after a Missed miscarriage and luckily had anesthesia so I did not have any pain during the procedure, but was in a lot of pain physically and emotionally after. Additionally, I suffered an ectopic pregnancy in May 2019. I had some spotting and bad cramping about a week after finding out I was pregnant, so I went to my OB and after an ultrasound and bloodwork they determined that I had an ectopic and needed to get the methotrexate shot. All went well with the shot and my levels dropped over 20% by day 7. I thought things were fine until 10 days after the shot when I had extreme stomach pains and ended up going to the ER. Although my HCG levels were dropping at normal rates the mass in my tube had actually grown and was causing internal bleeding so I had to have emergency surgery (laparoscopic) to remove my right tube. The physical healing went well, but I find the hardest part to be the emotional healing that I continue to go through over a year later. It is comforting to hear someone with a similar experience and know that I’m not alone. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey and appreciate your openness and ability to share your experience.

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      Davida Lederle
      September 21, 2020 at 12:01 pm

      Christina – thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry you’re stuck in this club with me. It’s not a fun place to be. I’m grateful for your willingness to share. It makes me feel less alone and I know others as well. Sending so much love and healing your way <3

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    September 19, 2020 at 10:07 am

    I’m sending love and hugs to you and C.

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    September 17, 2020 at 6:23 pm

    Sending you so much love, Davida. You shared your story in such a raw, beautiful way. Wishing you brighter days ahead. xoxo

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      Davida Lederle
      September 21, 2020 at 12:02 pm

      Thank you so much, Katie. Taking it day by day!

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    Leslie Antonis
    September 16, 2020 at 8:40 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Sorry for what you’ve and C experienced. Praying for you!

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      Davida Lederle
      September 17, 2020 at 1:18 pm

      Thank you, Leslie! I so appreciate the love and support.

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    September 16, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    Oh Davida, I’m so sorry to hear of your experience! I applaud you & your courage to share. You are such a a wonderful soul & wish your body & heart swift healing! ❤

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